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Full Idea
When you see someone weeping is sorrow …do not shrink from sympathising with him, and even groaning with him, but be careful not to groan inwardly too.
Gist of Idea
If someone is weeping, you should sympathise and help, but not share his suffering
Source
Epictetus (The Handbook [Encheiridion] [c.58], 16)
Book Ref
Epictetus: 'The Discourses, The Handbook, Fragments', ed/tr. Gill,C [Everyman 1995], p.292
A Reaction
The point is that the person's suffering is an 'indifferent' because nothing can be done about it, and we should only really care about what we are able to choose. He is not opposed to the man's suffering, or his need for support.